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origins of your personality

Just curious, thinking about your relationships with your parents and how they tried to raise you both as a young child and as you developed into a teen/young adult, does anyone have an opinion on whether or not your personality developed the way it did because of the way you were raised? In other words, do you think you are who you are solely because of the environment you grew up in, or simply because that's who you were born as, or perhaps some of both?

If you were raised in a unique household situation, such as with only one parent, or consisting of a certain number of siblings, you might make note of that. ^_^

I have yet to decide how I feel about this, as this idea just occurred to me a moment ago.

I should add that this community may or may not stray horribly from its designated "SP" topic, so if that's your sole interest, you may not be satisfied with what we end up discussing here. ^_^; Feel free to ask questions and/or start up a new topic any time.
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"Just curious, thinking about your relationships with your parents and how they tried to raise you both as a young child and as you developed into a teen/young adult, does anyone have an opinion on whether or not your personality developed the way it did because of the way you were raised? In other words, do you think you are who you are solely because of the environment you grew up in, or simply because that's who you were born as, or perhaps some of both?"

Yes, I have a distinct idea of why I am an ISFP, but I think it has a little bit of nature in it (naturally an ISFP) and a bit of nuture. Personally I believe that everyone is influenced by the types of their parents, and so it brings me to talk about the types of my parents.

My father is an INTP, but a very strict INTP parent. He acts more like an INTJ than INTP when he's parenting, but I think that's just because he was raised in a third world country when all hell broke out. (He was born in Algeria and spent most of his childhood in the midst of a horrible war between France and Algeria). Also, he just likes having his way or the highway. *shrugs* I think that's part of him being an NT, but a lot of NTs might go against what others believe/think just so they can get their way. My father and I don't have the best relationship (usually we don't talk at all, the only thing we talk about is school, my curfew.. which is always going to be early since he thinks I'm a 4 year old -_-;, and randomly politics). It mostly consists of him lecturing me on random philsophers and me listening like an SP who is trying to please the NT father lol. We used to fight a lot more as I've grown up, but he at least has been a decent parent. I don't agree with a lot of his rules, but that's ok. I'll be out soon >D! He has taught me to be my own person, and that I can't rely on anyone. I think part of the reason I'm a utilatarien is because both of my parents are. I'm much more closer to my mother (who is an E/ISFP), but I think that's because my parents have different ideas of the mother and father's roles to the children. My father thinks that the mother tends to the emotional aspect, and the father is basically just the rule maker. My mother thinks they both share in each role equally, but since my father doesn't, he isn't there emotionally.

So, both parents are crazy Ps too, which makes me a super mess lol. Our house is usually messy, not messy as in unsanitary, but messy as in wow we need to clean lol. I always put things off.. and I like options. I think if my parents were crazy Js, I would be more inclined to act like a J too.

Wow.. I just ranted a lot XD.

Growing up, my INTP sister always seemed to get along better with my INTP father, while I, an ISFP, was always closer to my ISFJ mother. We just seemed to be able to communicate on the same level. My mother and sister have been in near constant disagreement/bickering ever since I can remember.

I'm not sure if my sister developed a personality similar to my dad's because she hung out with him more to avoid getting into fights with my mom, or if she simply got along better with my dad because she already had a personality much like his own. Similarly, I'm not really sure if I developed a personality not terribly different from my mother's from spending a lot of time at her heels as a child, or if I understood her better due to a more similar temperament and in turn chose to keep her for company over my father.

I DO think my SP temperament manifested itself quite early in my life, regardless of when exactly it took permanent hold on me, but I can't be quite sure if I was born with some sort of predisposition to it or not.

I was quite the active child, constantly getting into trouble and mischief, and always running all over the place, jumping out of trees, riding my bike all over the neighborhood just for the sheer thrill of moving, and many of my childhood fantasies/games revolved around being a sort of superhero/virtuoso capable of defeating anyone and anything with physical might or amazing dexterity. I often "redid" moments of my life in my mind, beating up the bully that was picking on me or something of that nature. Overall, I'd say I was definitely an SP child. I think I gained a bit more introvertedness as I aged, having lost a lot of trust in people due to being picked on constantly throughout my childhood. I've matured since then, but I'd say I was and still am an ISFP.
That reminds me, since you metioned your sister: my younger brother (14 year old brat, at times lol) is an ESFP. I think part of the reason I'm an introvert and he's an extravert is because my brother takes after my mother more personality wise, and sometimes I take after my father more, maybe not personality wise, but the fact that we are both extreme introverts.
I guess no one cares.